|The ocean is always a healing place for me.|
This post is about the feeling of heat that sears through me when I've been hurt by someone's insensitivity. Lately, it's been happening more frequently. It usually occurs when someone knowlingly or unknowlingly does or says something that hits me right in the heart. The burn is usually paralyzing and if I'm in the presence of that person, I quickly shrug it off. That is, at least in front of them.
The truth is I'm tough, I'm quite the warrior. But, I'm a softie too. It hurts when the sting comes. My husband says, I'm his "pure" one. What he's meaning is that I honestly get shocked by people's insensitivity. He doesn't get shocked by it. He may be tougher than me. I am so open that I let people in and then, "OUCH"!! Their need to meet their own needs, their carelessness causes harm.
What I'm learning is not that I need to shut people out, but that I do need to build up my resilience. This means that in some instances I need to put distance between myself and the other's stinging nature. Other ways are, "guarding my heart" by being sure in who I am and realizing that their stinging me is their "issue" not mine. Also, standing strong in my power and practicing that if they sting me twice, pull out the "Warrior Gerri" and call them on it.
Truth is, people are doing the best they can in any given moment. But, the other truth is I don't have to continue to allow them to hurt me.